Lessons from Successful Marriages

This article is excerpted from the NY times national bestseller, “The Truth about Cheating.” The author studied hundreds of men, faithful and unfaithful, to discover how women could create better relationships for themselves.Here’s a simple secret that I’ve shared with thousands of couples in therapy and in my seminars: successful couples accentuate the positive and diminish the negative, and failed couples accentuate the negative and diminish the positive.Failed couples tend to think that their failure is justified because of the spouse they married. They perceive successful couples as having an…

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Leadership, Holy Men, and Lessons from Augustine

We can now take this point a stage further: in this context, that of the god-like aspirations of leadership, sin becomes incredibly attractive. In the Confessions, Augustine makes it clear in relation to a trivial act of the youthful crime of stealing some pears from a neighbour’s tree. It was not the pears themselves, he argues that made the crime attractive – he remembers that he had better pears in his own garden – but the act of transgression. He liked breaking the rules much more than he liked the…

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