What Do Wives Want from Their Husbands?

Wives want quality time, help around the house, leadership, and affection. That’s what the article I read listed. Fairly simple and straightforward. Life tells a very different story. What do women really want from their husbands?When asked “How much money is enough?” J. D. Rockefeller had the answer. “Just a little more.”And what has our culture taught wives to want from their husbands? “Just a little more.”True story: When the husband was battling alcoholism, her prayers and pleas were simple. “Oh, God, just let him stop drinking.” Amazingly, through God’s…

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The Christian Family: Teach Your Children God’s Ways

 If you are one of God’s people, you are a vessel God is using to preserve truth. God preserves His truth and love for His ways in the hearts of people. He preserves His truth across time, from generation to generation.This principle is so important that God commanded the nation of Israel: “Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine . . . You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down,…

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How to Get Your Spouse Involved With Your Family Finances

I really liked the financial sheet you created and was very excited to continue with it. However, I’ve wanted my husband to learn it as well since he is the big spender. He refuses to learn it and my health is deteriorating more and more every day. Every time I even mention the expenses, it bothers him and he seems to become very upset.I don’t know how to get him involved in the finances of our home.Any suggestions?Our reader is not alone; many husbands and wives share her frustration. Hopefully,…

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How To Select A Financial Advisor

Now that 2011 is before us, many have made New Year’s resolutions and goals.  Financial goals are one of the most popular goals along with getting healthy and losing weight.  When many look at their finances, they have many options.  They can do their own research, read some financial books, visit great financial blogs, or even seek out a financial advisor.  In the past 16 years of being an advisor, I have seen a life’s worth of financial mistakes of which many revolve around the source of the advice.  Here…

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How To Protect Your Marriage & Family

In our day-to-day lives packed with crowded schedules, carpooling kids, career concerns, and endless errands, the concept of evil may not seem relevant.  Yet Jesus taught us to pray, “deliver us from evil.”  Yes, evil is real and we must not be naïve about the opposition we face. The devil is no imaginary character, but a very real and present enemy. The Bible refers to him as “your adversary, the devil” (1 Peter 5:8).  The Apostle Paul was serious when he said, “Put on the whole armor of God so that you may…

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The Truth about Consequences

We do our children a great favor if we help them understand there are consequences for their actions … good and bad.Distraught parents often come to me because their children are suffering the consequences of not being adequately supervised. Of course, teenagers do not want to be supervised, but oftentimes dire consequences will be the result of parents adhering to their children’s complaints and demands for more personal freedom in areas where they are unable to cope with temptation. Setting consequences for a child’s choices and then making them happen…

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Money Can’t Buy Happiness . . . But Service Can

It’s a commonplace that money can’t buy you happiness. Studies show that people who win big in the lottery end out no happier than if they didn’t win.Razan Shalab Al-Sham had plenty of money. She grew up as the privileged daughter of a very wealthy Syrian family. According to a recent story about her on National Public Radio, Al-Sham had no awareness of poverty until war tore apart her country in the wake of the Syrian uprising. “In all my life,” she said, “I didn’t feel that I should care…

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Should You Have Kids If You Can’t Afford Them?

The U.S. birth rate has fallen dramatically in recent years. In fact birth rates among women between the ages of 25-29 are the lowest they’ve been since 1976. Those women who are having babies are waiting longer than ever to do so. The average age of a woman giving birth to her first child is around 26, up from 21 forty years ago.Why?Why are women delaying having children or opting not to have them at all?For many couples, the answer is pure economics. Researchers who study these trends note that…

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Save the Family, Save the Nation

The quote famously attributed to Vladimir Lenin is “Destroy the family, destroy the nation.” Of course he did not say this in the defense of family, but as part of his overall goal of destroying nations en route to a worldwide revolution. Bizarrely, Lenin still has defenders, though they mostly keep shop on the far left of the political spectrum, finding gainful employment mostly at universities, where they are saved from having to suffer the consequences of their own ideas.Such people sometimes complain that Lenin and other Communist dictators got…

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Mass is for the Family

Every Sunday, we trot into Mass, my little family and me. We have varying degrees of success from week to week, and once in a very great while, we make it all the way through Mass. I never assumed that Mass with a toddler would be easy, but I was shocked at how sometimes it wasn’t the toddler making things difficult—it was my fellow Mass goers.Now don’t get me wrong, this has been more the exception rather than the rule at my parish. We are blessed to have a parish that has…

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Babies & Family Bonding

I’ve always prided myself on extreme self-reliance. An almost pathological self-reliance, truth be told. Chalk it up to a mixture of firstborn-child-meets-choleric temperament with a heaping dose of introversion and you have a lone wolf-ette who doesn’t like to ask for help or work as part of a team. Ever. Even in high school the sports I chose were laughably individualistic: swimming, diving, cross country running, discus and shot put (not even joking) and…wait for it…pole vaulting. So yeah, I put the “I” in team.

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The Importance of Marriage and Family

Eight-year-old Danny Dutton’s teacher assigned her class to “explain God.” Danny wrote, “One of God’s main jobs is making people. He makes them to replace the ones that die so there will be enough people to take care of things on earth. He doesn’t make grown-ups, just babies, I think because they are smaller and easier to make. That way, He doesn’t have to take up His valuable time teaching them to talk and walk; He can just leave that to mothers and fathers.” The innocence of a child highlights…

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God is a Family

Thumbing through a Christian magazine a while back, I found an article titled “Adding Up the Trinity.” Amateur theologian that I am, that title caught my attention.The article asked—and answered—one basic question: Of what practical value is the biblical doctrine of the Trinity? Is it just an abstract proposition for theologians to argue about, or can it actually provide some meaningful guidance for your everyday life and mine?Let me take a moment to explain what Christians mean by “the Trinity,” and then I’ll share my response to that question.

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Simplify Family Worship

A man who is like a spiritual father to me began what he called a “family altar” with his wife before they were married, and has faithfully continued the practice through the arrival of children and grandchildren for more than fifty years. Sadly, it seems that few men among even the best evangelical churches today could speak of daily family worship in their home. In the minds of some, active church involvement eliminates the need for family worship. For others, Bible reading, prayer, and singing praises to God together as…

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Family Worship and Its Benefits

Family worship. I know your reaction when you read those two words. I used to have the same response! Whenever that term or one like it was mentioned, I would inwardly cringe. Similar to the reaction many of us have when the word evangelism is uttered. Guilt begins to creep in, our shoulders begin to ache, and our spirits sink. We know that we don’t practice family worship as often as we should. On some days we are not sure why. On other days we have a bag of ready…

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Family Devotions for the Young and the Restless

Preface: The following is an essay originally written for delivery on the radio over a decade ago, when my children were still quite young.James Dobson was wrong. In his book, The Strong-Willed Child, Dobson creates the distinct impression that no man will sire more than one strong-willed child (at least, that’s how I read the book). My wife and I clung to this false hope soon after the birth of our first-born son.

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