A Thankful Attitude is Good for Your Health

Being thankful is healthy.  That’s what the research continues to show.  An article in today’s Wall Street Journal health and wellness section addresses recent research that indicates that people who are thankful are happier and healthier. Should we be surprised? Nope, because our Creator gives us that principle in his guidebook for living, the Bible.  And, when we follow his principles for living, we’ll generally be healthy. Here are a few of the scriptures that instruct us to have a thankful heart and attitude:”Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s…

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Emotional Infidelity

Adultery is one of the gravest blows to a marriage, as well as a painful rejection for one partner. But you don’t have to be intimate with anyone else to be unfaithful. Emotional infidelity is just as — and at times even more — destructive to your marriage. Couples I counsel are absolutely outraged when I tell them that they could well be committing emotional adultery when they flirt with coworkers, send around funny emails to colleagues, or hang out with members of the opposite sex at gatherings. But they…

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How the Teachings of Emotional Purity and Courtship Damage Healthy Relationships

There are many times that I don’t realize just how much strange teaching I’ve had to undo in my life. I usually don’t realize it until times when I try to explain them to someone else. This happened to me the other night. A dear friend and I were talking about our kids and how to help them transition from children to adults. The topic of dating and relationships came up and we started talking about my story. Sometimes it’s actually comforting to me to be met with blank or…

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The Main Reason Many Relationships Don’t Last

Is it not striking that so few good relationships exist these days? So much so that we as a species seem to have resigned ourselves to believing that human beings simply cannot have healthy relationships. Unfortunately this view has only come into vogue because we have yet to appreciate the real reason why relationships rarely last. By excavating this and making it plain for all to see I believe we can begin to not only challenge but negate our current perspective on this matter.So how do we accomplish that? Well…

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Emotional Resilience and Relationship Collapse – Can They Co-Exist? Yes!

When a relationship collapses for whatever reason most people take it quite hard and fall prey to many seemingly “normal” feelings such as sadness, grief, anger, regret, rage, a deep sense of loss, low self worth, feelings of emptiness and loneliness, fears of being alone, low self esteem and so on. Are all these so called normal feelings actually “normal” or even “necessary”? Find out why not.In most cases, given the state and foundation upon which relationships are based, individuals look to their partners to fulfill many of their unmet…

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How to Avoid Emotional Manipulation During Worship

A worship service can be an highly emotional time. The powerful music, crowds of people, the aura of God’s majesty, and turning one’s attention to him can create intense feelings of joy, anticipation, or even sorrow. Some people weep. Some people laugh. Some people are unmoved.And all that’s okay.The problem comes when leaders of worship services make a concerted effort to change people’s emotions in an attempt to coerce certain behavior. This is known as “emotional manipulation” and can be a harmful action that hijacks true worship.

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The Purpose of a Godly Friendship

The emotional side of love can be a runaway train. By itself, this kind of love can be fragile and unstable. Emotional love can lead to foolish acts designed to attract attention, to nervousness, or to unfounded jealously. However, true and abiding love is grounded in a commitment that goes beyond the emotions to withstand both triumph and tragedy.Abiding love is what lies at the heart of the Christian life. When questioned about the greatest commandment, Jesus said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all…

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