THE FIELD

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FIELD:Electrons are both waves and particles? One minute they act like a particle, and the next minute they act like a wave? At  the  time,  no  one  could  really  believe  any  of  this  was  actually  true.  Something must be wrong, they thought…. So  the  scientists  modified  the  experiment  to  “watch”  (with  a  measuring  device)  a single  electron  as  it  went  through  the  double  slits  to  see  if  it  really  acted  like  a  wave instead of a particle. However, the moment they observed the electron, an even stranger thing happened. They…

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3 Beautiful Truths Every Divorced Christian Needs to Know

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Dear Divorced Christian, That term still stings, doesn’t it? It seems as if people everywhere want you to wear a large, scarlet letter “D” around your neck. Every form you complete asks if you are divorced or widowed, not just single or married. You are often scorned by the church because of your past. You feel as if you are a total and complete failure.

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Instructing Your Children in the Ways of God

A home is not only a place where a family lives; but it is also a training center, with the parents as the primary instructors. If you don’t teach your children about God and His value system, most likely they won’t follow after Him and His ways. But before any effective instruction can be given, a solid relationship must be developed between you and your children. To understand God’s intentions for the family, we must first go back to the Book of Beginnings.

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Life is in the Small Things

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Have you ever felt the desire to do something great? Have you desired to do something that mattered on a large scale? Do ever you feel frustrated or disappointed when you can’t change the world in massive ways? “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” -Mother TeresaIt is normal for us limited humans to desire to tap into our incredible human potential. We can often burn ourselves out trying to accomplish great feats.

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11 Ways to Build a More Loving Marriage

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If your marriage isn’t what you’d like it to be and your husband isn’t changing, there’s still hope that your relationship with him can improve. That’s because you can greatly influence the state of your marriage when you change yourself through the power of the Holy Spirit working in you. The growth of one person in a marriage relationship significantly impacts the other person.Here’s how you can change your marriage by becoming a more loving wife, with God’s help:

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Is Gay Marriage Destroying the United Methodist Church?

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Update (June 13): Nearly 90 Methodist conservatives have signed a response to the unity proposal by prominent pastor Adam Hamilton and other progressives, claiming it “will only extend, localize and exacerbate the acrimonious debate over the issue. “”Irreconcilable” disagreement over same-sex unions is once again prompting debate over splitting the historic United Methodist Church (UMC), one of America’s largest denominations.”If we are one church, we cannot act as if we are two. If, in reality, we are two churches, it may not be wise to pretend any longer that we…

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8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do

Last week, I saw a woman slam the car door in her husband’s face and storm off inside the grocery store. Then there was the couple sitting next to me, the man staring at his phone the entire time his wife shared with him her concerns about one of their children. I saw someone post a rant on Facebook about their spouse that ended with, “MEN!”Relationships are hard, and we’ve probably all done something similar to the examples above. But that doesn’t excuse the cavalier mistakes we sometimes allow for…

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Relationship With Christ

Various words are used to illustrate different truths of the gospel. In our previous study, we looked at the word justification, which comes from a law-court setting, and redemption, which comes from a financial setting. But salvation involves much more than those words can convey. Scripture also uses several other terms. In this study we will examine some of the words that describe our relationship with God and Christ. 1. Before we had faith in Jesus Christ, we were alienated from God, cut off from him. Whether we thought of…

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The Most Selfish Thing in the World

How do you intentionally go missing for a period of 16 years, letting your wife and five kids think you’re dead, only to reappear and share your story on ABC’s 20-20? It’s simple. You turn up gay with your lover.Eric Myers had married his high-school sweetheart Anne, and they had two daughters and then adopted three Vietnamese boys. When they went through marital difficulties they chose not to divorce because of their Christian faith.Then, on a business trip, Eric became discouraged and decided to get away for a few days…

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Breaking Up: When They Can Just Walk Away.

When someone walks out of your life you trusted would be there forever, the pain can be so excruciating, you feel as if your heart will rip right out of your chest, and you may even feel like you can’t go on one more day. If the relationship was a bit turbulent, you may even feel a bit of relief at first….and then the reality sets in with each day you don’t hear from them, that it’s over, and they may not be coming back this time. The tears are…

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Want to Strengthen Your Marriage?

When people need advice in any area of life, they can turn to the Bible for Godly answers. What does the Bible say about marriage? Plenty, beginning with the successes and failures of the first husband and wife, Adam and Eve.People are always interested in relationships—how to have them and how to maintain them—and it seems this is especially true in the area of marriage. What makes a marriage work? Is there some special secret, or is it a hit–and–miss proposition?God created the institution of marriage in His creation of…

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Loving Your Spouse

It seems that with our busy schedules in this day and age, the home and family have become grossly neglected. We are often so busy providing for our children and giving them life opportunities that we fail to realize that the greatest gift we can provide for them as parents is to truly love each other and to express that love for one another.You may not have been raised in a loving home. Therefore, you did not have an example of how a husband should treat his wife and of…

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Is The Gay Marriage Debate Over?

One could become wistful about the time in history when marriage was a settled affair, when everyone agreed on what it was, when no nation on the planet would have entertained the idea of legalizing same-sex marriage. But wistfulness is usually reserved for times long ago and places far away—not for a state of affairs that existed less than a decade ago.In December 2000, the Dutch parliament became the first to pass legislation that gave same-sex couples the right to marry, divorce, and adopt children. On April 1 of the…

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How Should Christians Date?

Awise man once told me that there were only two outcomes for dating relationships: getting married or breaking up. “The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.” Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating scene can be. As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties,…

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3 Ways Churches Can Bridge the “Marriage Divide”

With so much of the focus on the same-sex marriage debate, we American Christians sometimes forget the “other” marriage problem. Namely, there are fewer and fewer weddings in many segments of the population. And the impact is devastating.First, the good news: college-educated men and women have strong, stable marriages for the most part. Divorce rates continue to drop, and children from these marraiges usually grow up with both a mom and a dad. That gives these kids a big boost in terms of their faith, finances, life success, and health.However,…

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Marriage: As Designed by God

The institution of marriage involves a covenant between a man, a woman, and God. Man and woman, by mutual consent, enter the arrangement. But the procedure, in order to be valid, must be consistent with divine law. The Origin of Marriage:According to anthropologists, there is no society wherein marriage does not exist in some format (Montague, p. 240). The institution is, therefore, a universal phenomenon. Since every effect must have an adequate cause, there must be some reasonable explanation for this feature of global society. Actually, there are but two…

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5 Ways to Soothe Conflict in Marriage

“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty and he who controls his spirit than he who takes a city” (Proverbs 16:32).Summer is here and the temperatures are steadily soaring higher than eagles. With the rising heat, tendencies to become easily frustrated or temperamental also seem to rise. Day-to-day responsibilities and inconveniencies can already be overwhelming enough without adding heated arguments to the mix.I recently heard a national news story of a woman who was so angry with her son for talking back to her that she…

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How Do I Know He’s “The One”?

Q: Is there one person I’m meant to marry, or should I just choose a good man? A: This question isn’t simply a contemplative exercise; it impacts how you approach dating and marriage. However, I think it is the wrong question to be asking.The question of “Is there one guy I’m supposed to marry?” is fundamentally based on fear. You’ve likely seen marriages break apart, and wonderful romances turn ugly. Perhaps you grew up in the throes of your mom and dad fighting. Judith Wallerstein, one of the foremost experts…

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5 Ways to Encourage Your Husband as a Dad

Several weeks ago, I joined a group of friends from church to go see the movie Moms’ Night Out, and indulge in a little cheesecake and conversation afterwards. We talked about moments in the film that stood out to us as moms – that endless inward pressure of wanting to make everything in our homes and families perfect; not wanting to ask for help, but simultaneously feeling helpless some days.I told my friends about one of the biggest fights Cliff and I ever had early in our marriage, when I…

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What Do Wives Want from Their Husbands?

Wives want quality time, help around the house, leadership, and affection. That’s what the article I read listed. Fairly simple and straightforward. Life tells a very different story. What do women really want from their husbands?When asked “How much money is enough?” J. D. Rockefeller had the answer. “Just a little more.”And what has our culture taught wives to want from their husbands? “Just a little more.”True story: When the husband was battling alcoholism, her prayers and pleas were simple. “Oh, God, just let him stop drinking.” Amazingly, through God’s…

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The Key to Healthier Conflicts in Marriage

“As a single man, I was cool, calm, and collected. Then I got married.”The opening of Tyler Ward’s latest post, 4 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Fought With My Wife, is one many couples can probably relate to. For Christians, marriage has always been an important and celebrated part of life. It’s a right-of-passage into adulthood, a vow couples swear to honor and cherish one another until death parts them. Unfortunately, we rarely stop to think about what happens after the wedding bells have been rung. Couples don’t…

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7 of the Greatest Needs of a Husband

I  previously shared 7 of the greatest needs of a wife, based on personal observation and experience working with married couples.Today I continue with the man’s side of the needs.Here are 7 of the greatest needs of a man.Respect – This is number one! I would even be emphatic and say every time. In my experience, men are using a different word that means this if they say it isn’t! Ephesians 5:33 says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must…

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The Challenge of “Agape” Love

The New Testament was written in Koine Greek. The word Koine denotes “common,” because this style of Greek was the language of the common man-on-the-street during the time of Christ.Koine Greek came into vogue about 300 years before the birth of Jesus, and it became an obsolete language about three centuries after the Lord’s death. It was the most precise instrument for the conveyance of human thought that the world has ever known. Without doubt, this language was providentially employed by God in giving the world the New Testament revelation…

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What is love?

Can you define love? A question so many people have often pondered. Some say it is romance. Some say it is bliss. It is one of those words in our English language that have so many meanings to choose from. Dictionary.com defines it as: “A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend”Though those definitions are nice…I can’t help but realise that these are mere emotions or feelings….but isn’t love something more real?

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What Husbands Need

Beloved and revered by his players, legendary coach of the UCLA Bruins college basketball team, John Wooden changed the lives of every young man who played for him through the powerful values and life lessons he taught them.But of perhaps more importance, Coach Wooden was married for 53 years to the love of his life, Nell. Coach Wooden was so dedicated to her that after her death in 1985, he continued to write Nell a love letter every month for the next 25 years. He faithfully placed those letters under…

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What If Your Spouse Cheats?

When you married, if you’re like most couples, you made a vow pledging your faithfulness. But now you’ve discovered your spouse didn’t take that vow seriously. It doesn’t matter whether it was a one-night stand or a long-term affair, the results are the same—your spouse’s action has left in its wake fear, doubt, distrust, betrayal, hurt, and anger.Ultimately, it’s what you do with these emotions—how you process them—that makes the difference. For you and your marriage’s sake, you need to process these emotions in a positive way. Here’s help.

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God-Honoring Pleasure in a Shades-of-Grey World

I want you to know why I felt confused after you spanked, punished, beat, and assaulted me. Well, during the whole alarming process, I felt demeaned, debased, and abused. And much to my mortification, you’re right; I was aroused . . . What really worried me was how I felt afterward. And that’s more difficult to articulate. I was happy that you were happy. I felt relieved that it wasn’t as painful as I thought it would be. And when I was lying in your arms, I felt . .…

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Those Three Magical Words

I’d spent the last few wintry-cold months thinking about my ex-boyfriend—and how he probably wanted to date me again. Then during a cross-country road trip, from New Jersey back to my home in California, I had the opportunity to see him in Chicago—where we’d both grown up—as I passed through. (Yes, I admit it. I probably would have concocted the trip out of thin air, but I actually needed my car in California. So the whole casual stop-in was actually legit.)Scott’s folks were kind enough to offer me their spare…

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The Three ‘Cs’ of Fatherhood

In First Chronicles chapter 28, David gave some final words of advice to his son, Solomon, “Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you until all the work for the service of the temple of the Lord is finished” (v. 20).These were some of the last words David spoke to his son Solomon before David passed from the earth to receive his heavenly reward. In this one…

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How to Stay Married in a World Full of Divorce

I’m downstairs by the wood stove, my boys beside me, and Legos and toy cars strewn across the floor. It’s minus 25 degrees outside. “You better put some more wood on the fire,” Aiden says, pointing at the coals.I nod to my son and say, “Yes, we better keep Daddy’s fire going.””You see that?” Aiden says to his brother Kasher, while they’ve got their legs tucked, sitting on the rug—a dance of flames on a cold winter’s day. “It keeps us nice and warm.”He doesn’t just mean the fire. He…

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